Stop leaving your babies behind

This is written to the the men, but it could also be written to the women also . Please people stop having children you can not commit to... Why is it when the child is born there's so much joy picking out a name and preparing for a life as a family unit .......

Then after a period of time the newness and excitement for some fathers is gone...For some un explain reason or reasons the relationship with the " baby momma" starts to sour, she's gain too much weight having your baby or like my mom, babies and the men start staying out and looking at greener pastures not realizing after while that grass has to be cut too..

( Relationship is more than lip service, or being eye candy but it is Work).

Well here's the problem, its OK to leave momma if that's making you so unhappy, but what about the children? You don't call, visit, some men don't even send child support, they will quit a job first before they will pay.....and some of the ones who do pay have to be court force and then payroll garnishment...this is so shameful!

Then these young kids grow up with a void and a emptiness a feeling of rejection, even though they have the love of the remaining parent, they still look back at the absent parents picture and ask why? Why did you not come back for me?

Why.....then they become adults entering relationships with only one perspective and then have babies and sometimes struggle to close the gap and give your family what you never got, a stable loving home. Sometimes that doesn't work and the cycle starts all over again....

Fathers stop leaving your babies behind, stop sowing your seed, like its a crop, because this ( harvest ) crop only brings and bares bitter and resentful fruit.....

How do I know?

This was once me ......when I was very young in the mind molding stages, my parents had a separation and as time went on a expected divorce later followed , my father was in the military and unfortunately for me and my siblings when he divorced my mom we were also divorced, this left a lot of unanswered questions of pain and rejection, until now as a adult, he is just a stranger on the street to me, I have forgiven him and moved on to a happier place in my life, ( you see if you don't know love how can you show love, My dad could only go emotionally as far he was taught as a child ) Thank God when I started my own family, I broke the generational cycle and built my family up on love and a strong faith in God then one day , I personally met a man name Jesus, who spoke relationship to my heart, taught and showed me mercy and grace all while restoring all the things that was missing from my heart due to a absent parent and now I can offer this same hope to you! .


©Samaritiandiva 2010