When you say

When You say, "It's impossible". God says: "All things are possible". ( Luke 18:27 )

When You say, "I'm too tired." God says: "I will give you rest". ( Matthew 11:28-20 )

When You say, "Nobody really loves me". God says: "I love you". ( John 3:16 & John 13:34 )

When You say, "I can't go on." God says: "My grace is sufficient." ( 2 Corin 12:9 & Psalm 91:15 )

When You say, "I can't figure things out." God says: "I will direct your steps." ( Proverbs 3:5-6 )

When You say, "I can't do it." God says: "You can do all things in Me." ( Phil 4:13 )

When You say, "It's not worth it." God says: "It will be worth it." ( Romans 8:28 )

When You say, "I can't forgive myself." God says: "I forgive you." ( I John 1:9 & Romans 8:1)

When You say, "I can't manage." God says: "I will supply all your needs." ( Phil 4:19 )

When You say, "I'm afraid." God says: "I have not given you a spirit of fear." ( 2 Tim. 1:7 )

When You say, "I'm always worried and frustrated".. God says: "Cast all your cares on ME ( 1 Peter 5:7 )

When You say, "I don't have enough faith." God says: "I've given everyone a measure of faith." ( Romans 12:3 )

When You say, "I'm not smart enough." God says: "I give you wisdom." ( 1 Corin 1:30 )

When You say, "I feel all alone." God says: "I will never leave you or forsake you." ( Hebrews 13:5 ).

My take on this message is this, stop listening to the negative voices in this world, you find theses types everywhere, on the job, in the church, your neighborhood and for a select few in your own home, styled as a thorn in your flesh. Start being drawn to fresh wholesome manna, good happy conversation, that brings not only happiness but Joy to your soul and thus encourages you to go higher and higher in Christ Jesus.

And your life will show it as the " when I think of the goodness of Jesus and all He has done for me , my soul cry s out hallelujah ! I thank God for saving me " that type of praise will overflow into manifestly Success, healing, Funds into every need you may have or be experiencing in your life. Stop feeding negativity and start shutting down and starving all the negatives things in your life, when fear and doubt come in to tag team you, grab your rod ( the Word/ Bible ) and positively beat negativity out the door and out of your life !

Samaritiandiva's moments at the well ! March 22, 2011
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23 Psalms

Psalm 23:1-3

The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.

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Liars in the church

Liars in the Church

A preacher finished the service one morning by saying,
"Next Sunday, I am going to preach on the subject of liars. As a
preparation
for my sermon, I would like you all to read Mark 17."

On the following
Sunday, the preacher rose to begin. Looking out at the congregation he
said,
"Last week I asked you all to read Mark 17. If you have read the chapter,
please raise your hand".

Nearly every hand in the congregation went up.

Smiling, the preacher said,
"You are the very people I want to talk to.

Mark has only 16
chapters......" LOL !!!!

AMEN
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Part II Cycle of Abuse Chart

Cycle of Abuse Chart



Knowledge is power

it doesn't take a rocket scientist to see when a stove is hot, if you see fire, flames or the bright red for those of you who have a glass top stove like me,



nevertheless , when you see the warning signs , take a step back , and recognize where you are at on the chart and then you can plan accordingly........


Please be wise and don't subject yourself to physical abuse on any level, we cannot repay evil with evil....



we can step back, get information, counseling , prayer from your Pastor and church, then what ever you do , you move more clearly and efficiently , walking in faith and confidence , that whatever you decide it will work out for your good....



Once again if you feel threaten or feel your life or children's life is endangered, GET OUT NOW !



and call 911 or call Transitions , the website is located on this site at the top , just click the link !!!....


( On the Cycle of Abuse Chart above just Click on it to enlarge it )


Be bless, please write me or email me let me know how you are doing , I care !



© Evangelist Christine Mayo

Part I ….10 Myths About Domestic Violence

This is a blast from the past, I posted this material 10 Myths about Domestic Violence on August 21, 2010. Believe it or not when I check the stats today...this article received 803 page views, My prayer is if one person is helped by this info, my work or living on this earth is not in vain, on a personal note a dear friend of mine , recently killed her husband in a crime of passion, I knew some things , but didn't know or could discern it all, I thank God that I did show love, a listening non judgemental ear and offer prayer to a God who knows and sees all

When my Sister in Christ was arrested ,tried and sentenced my heart fell , when I found out what had happened , I had no idea , it was that dangerous in that household...

stop trying to internalize the problems in your life, you are not responsible for anothers persons actions, choices or bad behavior, you are not alone, you are not the only one ,

there is help and there are people that care and want to offer help and tangible assistance in your transition and time of need. ...write me ,email me,

I care , I will send you information, knowledge is the key to freeing and empowering yourself. Much love to you...

.Christine AkA Samaritiandiva

Domestic violence, intimate partner victimizations, and other appalling criminal acts between spouses, boyfriends, and girlfriends stands as one of the most under-addressed and misunderstood issues in America and beyond. The prevailing myths surrounding these tragedies actively stand in the way of bringing the perpetrators to justice. As if that was not an already disconcerting side effect, many of them also perpetuate negative mindsets which park blame more on the victim than the victimizer. By shaming those who bear the brunt of the pain, men and women alike who find themselves on the receiving end of abuse do not seek out the help they need in order to live a safe existence away from their tormenters. Promoting an education and understanding of why domestic abuse happens and is allowed to continue stands as the only way to truly put a dent in the practice and prevent repeated assaults.

1. Only women are victims of domestic violence.






Between 2001 and 2005, 22% of all reports regarding nonfatal violence cited females over the age of 12 as the victims and intimate partners (former or current spouses, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. as the perpetrators. In the same time frame, 4% of nonfatal violence reports listed males over the age of 12 as victims with the offenders also as intimate partners. Domestic violence does occur against men, though the majority of reported cases in the United State usually involve the victimization of women.








Some theories posit that men comprise a much higher rate than the statistics show, however. Women are more likely to seek help from the police and other authorities, which does not paint the clearest picture of the true domestic violence demographics. Because of prevailing perceptions that a man on the receiving end of abuse is somehow weak or lacking masculinity, males are far less likely to come forward about their experiences and file criminal charges against their assailants. The only way for society to gain an understanding of how far this issue spreads is to abolish its stigmatization of male victimhood. If more men stood up and took legal action against their assailants – male and female alike – it would inspire others towards opening up and giving America a glimpse into the real depths of the epidemic.








2. Domestic violence occurs only in lower-class, uneducated, or minority households.








Domestic violence does not discriminate against socioeconomic, educational, age, sexual preference, or racial lines any more than it does gender. It can happen to anyone, anywhere, at any time. Like the female-male discrepancy, many of the misconceptions regarding statistics do not provide an accurate picture of how widespread the issue truly reaches. For example, between 2001 and 2005 the average annual rate of nonfatal intimate partner victimizations was 4 per 1,000 individuals over the age of 12 for Caucasian women, 5 per 1,000 individuals over the age of 12 for African-American women, and 4.3 per 1,000 individuals over the age of 12 for Hispanic women. Negligible differences, really, but it drives home just how little race truly matters when it comes to domestic violence. However, Native American women suffered from nonfatal intimate partner victimization at a disconcerting rate of 11.1 per every 1,000 individuals over the age of 12. By contrast, Asian women found themselves the victims of nonfatal intimate partner attacks at a rate of 1.4 per every 1,000 individuals over the age of 12 – the exact same as African-American men.








These discrepancies obviously fail to take into account instances that go fully unreported, so it is entirely likely that the reality is far more evened out than the gaps appears. The same statement applies to socioeconomic brackets as well. Between 2001 and 2005, 12.7 out of 1000 females and 1.5 out of 1000 of males over the age of 12 who had been victimized in a nonfatal domestic dispute came from households with an average income of less than $7,500 a year. In the $7,500-$24,999 range, 6.2 out of 1000 females and 1.5 out of 1000 males were victimized. Households with an average income of $25,000 through $49,999 saw 5.2 out of 1,000 females over the age of 12 and 0.8 males over the age of 12 as victims of nonfatal intimate partner abuse. Finally, income brackets earning $50,000 or more victimized 2 out of 1,000 females over the age of 12 and .6 males over the age of 12. However, men and women in higher tax brackets are more likely to settle the issue privately through out-of-court settlements instead of pressing criminal charges. Those from lower income households tend to rely more on police intervention, making them more prominent in statistical data. So, much like the apparent gap between gender and race, it is entirely possible that these differences close when one begins to consider unreported and privately settled cases.








3. Instances of domestic violence are actually quite rare.








In May of 2002 alone, 16 of the largest urban counties in the United States reported a combined total of 3,750 cases of intimate partner violence. Trending data shows males and females alike reporting more incidents to the police, which signifies either an increase in domestic violence or more individuals learning that the best route towards escaping fear lay with coming forward and letting the criminal justice system intervene. Because so many victims remain too scared to confront the issue externally, it is impossible to gauge just how frequently it occurs. However, some estimates pose that 1 in every 4 women in the United States will become victimized by nonfatal intimate partner violence at some point in her life.








While not the most common crime, domestic violence still occurs at a disconcerting rate. Even if it were extremely rare, it would remain a travesty that needs addressing by law enforcement personnel and the individuals involved in the attack. In order to gain an idea as to the true number of victims, men and women alike who have found themselves the victims of domestic violence must confront their very real terror and seek assistance from the police or other legal authorities. For men and women alike, the most common reason for failing to report the incident was the belief that domestic violence is an entirely personal matter, with 21.8% of female and 39.2% of male victims adhering to this mindset. Unspecified reasons trap 22% of females and 17.1% of males involved in abuse. After that, a desire to protect the assailant weighed in as the second most common motivation, with 14.4% of women and 15.6% of men listing that as their primary reason for denying themselves proper legal intervention. Fear surprisingly takes up the last of the most common excuses for denial of police involvement, with 12.4% of females and 5.3% of males responding as such. Regardless of why victims refuse assistance from public safety officials, the fact that so many actively deny themselves respite and peace of mind ought to show that the problem may stand as more common than many people believe.








4. Domestic violence is usually a one-time-only occurrence.








In May of 2002, 46% of convictions for nonfatal intimate partner violence had a history of prior abuse towards the victim. While some instances of domestic violence only involve one incident, men and women alike who remain in abusive situations run a far higher risk of succumbing to repeated attacks than those electing to press charges after the first offense. In addition, they also put themselves in danger of escalation as well. Where the abusive partner may have once administered force with the hands, future assaults may involve weapons – 1 in every 4 instances of domestic violence involves a gun, knife, or blunt object – or even result in a fatality. Many abusers promise after the first incident that they will never hurt the victims again as a means of persuading them against pressing charges. Unfortunately, this manipulates the abused into directly placing themselves in harm’s way once more rather than acting as a legitimate apology. In fact, these statements in many ways actively reinforce other myths.








5. Victims of domestic violence usually provoke the abuse.

















A blame the victim philosophy surrounds many violent crimes, with fingers pointed towards men and women alike who find themselves on the receiving end of abuse questioned almost as intensively as their assailants. Many mistakenly believe that perhaps the victim said or did something to anger the abuser, furthering their shame and encouraging them to become mired in a dangerous situation rather than pursuing the help they truly need. This mindset also frequently reasserts itself following the initial attacks. Along with promising to learn a lesson, many abusers also lead their victims to believe that they themselves somehow deserved to be hurt. These sadly common statements serve to push the responsibility off their shoulders and onto those of the victim, making him or her less likely to call the police and welcome help. If the victim is led to believe that the abuse had been warranted, he or she is more likely to stay within their status quo of domination and intimidation rather than press charges and escape their queasily intimate hell.








As always, promoting and educating the populace on the machinations of domestic violence remains only way to combat these atrocities. Men and women alike need to understand that NOBODY deserves to be assaulted, except in obvious cases of self-defense. No words, no nonviolent or petty actions should lead to an act of violence, and all initial unprovoked attacks must be reported to the police or other authorities in order to prevent a repeat performance. Society needs to understand how the mind of an abusive individual operates – how it forces prey to believe that their assault is fully deserved and their tormenter needs protecting, how it forges empty promises to learn a lesson if the police do not get involved, and how it exploits and manipulates all involved parties to alleviate their responsibility. Only then can victims understand that they are the ones who should not feel ashamed by the situation and stand up to rightfully, legally defend themselves against unwarranted violence.








In believing that working on the relationship between abuser and victim makes for a solution to end abuse, the mindset that the abused remains somehow at fault becomes sadly reinforced. Nonfatal intimate violence is NOT a relationship issue. It is a personal issue that comes from within the assailant. No amount of couples counseling or heart to heart talks will alleviate the mindsets behind an attack – even if the abuser is more than eager to put forth the effort to prevent another incident. They need handling by the proper authorities if they harbor any sincere hope to reform, and punishment may involve jail time and intense psychotherapy to stave off repeat offenses.














Tomorrow Part II of this series

This is long but useful info, tomorrow Part II will be posted you see as long as Women and a few men are being abuse by the hands , sometimes by people they trusted , I have a responsibility to shed light and expose ….My own Mom has been a victim of physical and verbal abuse, and if you don’t stop the cycle , it just goes on from generation to generation……Knowledge is empowering! Knowledge will set you free…if you use your resources…You can break the cycle, you can break the yoke off your generation!.

Have a blessed Day!